Introducing our complete guide to anal sex and pleasure, a free resource for first-time anal experimenters and those interested in even better sex. Take a look below to discover everything from first steps to advanced techniques and toys, safety tips and more!
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While anal sex is more popular than ever, with an estimated 40% plus Americans having tried it out, many people don’t really know how to get the best out of anal. If you go about it wrong, the experience often ends up being unpleasurable and painful, particularly for the receiver.
If you’re doing it properly, anal sex can be an incredibly fun new experience for everyone involved - it just takes a little bit of knowledge. In this masterclass, we’re taking a look at how to have unforgettably pleasurable anal sex, what makes anal unique, and what to avoid, all in the 8 quick lessons below.
A lot of people don’t really like to think about anatomy, even when they’re interested in anal sex. However, knowing how your body works means understanding how pleasure works, making sex more rewarding for you and your partner.
First of all, there’s the anus. There’s two rings of muscle that make up this part of your body - an external sphincter which can be flexed, and an automatic internal one. Relaxation helps a lot when it comes to getting past these, along with the use of a good lubricant. You don’t have to get in deep for anal pleasure - most of the nerves are found in the first couple of inches of the anus.
Past the anus, there’s the rectum. If you’re having anal sex, you’ll probably feel a lot of stimulation here - a lot of people say this makes them feel ‘filled up’. Despite the general assumption, the rectum isn’t particularly dirty - while there’ll be trace faecal particles, there’s a lot less risk of contamination than you might think, particularly when you follow the safety tips below. For some, there’s an extra level of pleasure to be found here by stimulating the prostate - read on to find out more!
Don’t believe the porn - anal sex really requires lube. There’s no natural lubrication for the anus, so going in dry means a painful, dangerous experience for everyone. Using any kind of body-safe lube makes a real difference for your anal experience, preventing injuries, making it easier to go in, and hugely enhancing pleasure.
There’s a reason that some people prefer lube specially designed for anal sex, though. Because there’s no natural lubrication, anal lubes tend to be a lot thicker, providing smooth, totally frictionless sex. For our money, water-based anal lubes are a great choice - body safe and sex toy-friendly, water-based lubes are simple to use, easy to clean up, and don’t have any of the side effects sometimes seen with other options.
One of the biggest problems beginners encounter with anal sex is starting out with full-on penetration. Without proper preparation, being anally penetrated by a penis or dildo can be painful and may lead to injuries, particularly if you’re using anal numbing products to remove sensation.
You really should start off small when it comes to anal sex, building up to larger sizes. Probably the most comfortable way to do this is using a set of Training Plugs. Easily inserted, these plugs are designed to get you more used to anal penetration, letting you slowly increase the size of the plug. If you're interested in finding out more about training plugs, you're in the right place! We've recently launched a brand-new product that's perfect for anal beginners, while including some advanced features you can build up to - our Bathmate Anal Training Plug kit!
There’s a lot of nerve endings in and around the anus - it’s actually got one of the highest concentrations of nerves in the body. Put simply, this means that there’s a lot of very unique sensations going on when it comes to anal. Stimulating the nerves in the first couple of inches of the anus can be incredibly pleasurable, while going further into the rectum makes for a kind of ‘filled-up’ sensation. As the anus is particularly tight, there’s also often a lot of new sensations for the giver, making anal sex a uniquely powerful experience for a lot of couples.
Of course, anal sex really isn’t for everyone - some people don’t find it pleasurable at all, even when it’s done right. Different people have very different sensations from anal, but by making sure that you and your partner are comfortable and relaxed, you can experience anal at its best.
The pleasure from anal sex isn’t just about penetration - there’s a lot of things that can add a completely new level of pleasure. Just touching the genitals isn’t enough, with total pleasure requiring extended stimulation - and it’s exactly the same when it comes to anal. For maximum pleasure, vibrating anal sex toys are a perfect choice, whether it’s our new VIBE Training Plugs or a different choice.
For the lucky ones, anal sex opens up a different kind of pleasure. Located near the anus, the prostate is a small gland that controls the makeup of semen. Using a finger or sex toy to gently massage the prostate creates real waves of pleasure, an incredible sensation. To really maximise the sensation with prostate massage, it’s best to gently stroke the prostate through the rectum.
If you’re doing it properly with complete protection, anal sex should be safe for everyone. There’s a few things it’s important to get right, though. As we’ve said, having enough lube and slowly building up tolerance for anal penetration is majorly important, while using numbing sprays can result in injuries, with receivers unable to tell when they’re going too far with penetration.
There’s a few other important points to consider. It’s very important to use a condom when it comes to anal sex. Penetration can result in damage to the protective rectal lining, and this damage can lead to a higher risk of STIs if you’re not using a condom. Along with this, it’s important to stay hygienic when it comes to anal sex - read on for more info.
While it’s a lot less dirty than some people think, anal sex and anally-used toys do require quite a bit of care when it comes to hygiene. For maximum hygiene, a lot of people douche before anal sex, using warm water to wash out any faecal traces. It’s not an essential, but it does help cut down on unpleasant accidents. As we’ve said, using condoms and lubrication is a must, and these help make anal a whole lot more hygienic.
When it comes to anally-used sex toys, cleanliness really is key. We recently launched the world’s first Anal Toy Cleaner, a specialty product made to completely remove any contamination, with a formulation specifically designed for anal toys. While our cleaner is specially for anal toys, most sex toy cleaners can help you keep your toys hygienic - just make sure they’re antibacterial!
There’s a lot of myths and faulty thinking about anal sex - here’s some important facts: