If you’ve ever felt like things wrap up too quickly in the bedroom, you’re not alone. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual performance issues for men, affecting roughly 1 in 3 at some point in their lives. But the good news? It’s also one of the most manageable—with the right tools and training.
Let’s break down five proven techniques to last longer in bed, and explore how one unexpected tool—a penis pump—might help build the control you’re looking for.
1. The Start-Stop Method
A time-tested technique for building ejaculation control. When you feel like you’re close to climax, stop all stimulation. Let the sensation subside, then resume. This helps you build awareness of your arousal threshold and trains your body to respond more gradually.
Used consistently, it builds staying power over time without the need for medication or numbing creams.
2. The Squeeze Technique
Similar to the start-stop method, but with added pressure—literally. Just before orgasm, squeeze the penis gently but firmly near the head for several seconds. This can help interrupt the ejaculatory reflex and delay climax.
It’s a little old-school, but many sex therapists still recommend it for men working on stamina and arousal control.
3. Pelvic Floor Training (Kegels)
You’ve probably heard about Kegels for women, but men benefit too. Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles—especially the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle—can help you control ejaculation and improve erection quality.
Try starting with 3 sets of 10 contractions per day. In as little as 4–6 weeks, you may start noticing improvements in control and firmness.
4. Breathwork and Body Awareness
When you're about to finish early, it’s not just your body—it’s your brain. Anxiety, stress, and overstimulation all shorten your fuse. Practicing controlled breathing (slow inhale through your nose, steady exhale through your mouth) helps you stay calm and reset during arousal.
Mindfulness and focus are just as critical as physical techniques when it comes to delaying ejaculation.
5. Penis Pump Conditioning
Here’s the lesser-known angle: consistent use of a penis pump may help build sexual stamina over time. Devices like the Bathmate hydropump use water pressure to increase blood flow, enhance vascular elasticity, and reduce hypersensitivity in erectile tissue.
In fact, vacuum erection devices (VEDs) are commonly used in clinical settings to support men with erection control issues and vascular insufficiency [source: Journal of Sexual Medicine].
Over time, this type of conditioning may make your erections feel fuller and more stable—and in turn, help reduce the urgency or sensitivity that can lead to finishing too fast.
Final Thoughts
Lasting longer in bed isn’t just about fixing a problem—it’s about improving the entire experience, for you and your partner.
By combining physical techniques like Kegels and start-stop with mindful practices and consistent pump training, you can build real, measurable control. No tricks. No shortcuts. Just better awareness, stronger erections, and more satisfying endurance.
Looking to start training? Explore Bathmate’s full range of pumps and begin building your stamina from the inside out.
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Charlie Walsh
Learn MoreCharlie Walsh is a writer at Bathmate, specializing in creating informative, engaging, and relatable content about men’s health, confidence, and wellbeing. Through his writing, Charlie helps readers better understand Bathmate’s products and the science behind them—always with a focus on honesty, empowerment, and real-world results.